Well after typhoon Glenda hit home, there's nothing much left to do with all the power/water/wifi outages in town. For the first few nights I actually found it romantic eating with all the candle lights and with only them to sustain the dim lit vision all night. But past forward four days and it's not helping anybody's mood already. So we just had to eat out.
Living in Imus, Cavite has its downside, actually many of them. Unlike living in other areas in the south (Las Piñas, Parañaque, Muntinlupa ), there's only so many places you can go in times like these. Yes malls have been springing up everywhere, but there's still this lack of those small, quaint yet modern and hip restaurants that all the latter has. All we have is fast food, chains and chains of them. So in times of hunger, you really have no choice but to resort to one. So that night, I was craving for Sisig , and one of my faves is Chic Boy, I've always been a fan. It's cheap, tasty and will always give your belly the blob it needs. It offers Unlimited Rice and soup, overflowing chicken oil, mountains of fried garlic to go with all your high blood inducing foods. What else can you actually ask for?
So I grabbed my hubby to go to the nearest outlet, and it's in V Central Mall Molino. We got there at around half past eight and people are still lining up in the counter. We immediately ordered our food, Lechon Sisig for me and Liempo for him. They're both Unli-Rice. We sat down and waited for our order, I gently asked one of the waiters if they have fried garlic, and with a very delighting smug look on his face he answered a stiff, "WALA." Fine I'd let that pass, but past forward 20 mins. that's only when our dishes came. And my hubby even got the wrong one, the smug waiter kept on insisting he ordered a chicken leg. So I gave him our receipt. He checked then went away, thankfully after around 5 minutes he came back with the right order. Okay time to eat, finally. As I was looking at my most awaited food, I readily realized something's not right. This isn't what I ordered. This isn't Sisig, this is OIL with a few spoons of meat.
This is what their website says it's supposed to look like (Lechon Sisig)
And this is what I got:
Really, are they serious? I'm not picky when it comes to food, but seriously, can you even call this food? I tried to eat it since I'm really hungry, I tried scooping the less oily stuff out of the death pool but it just didn't work. I just scavenged a few slices of meat from my hubby.
I'm a big fan of this restaurant, and I'm not against them in any way. But some of their branches really need to step up. If you want to maintain that good reputation then please hire qualified people, not to mention friendly. It's all about service. And with this branch, I'm not sure if they really have it.
Hot Star Large Fried Chicken is now in the Philippines
Well I must say say this is a new found treasure for all of us Filipinos who are very fond of unlimited rice and unbelievably large amounts of serving-size foods.
This restaurant got its origins from Taiwan and it kind of spread like wild fire into the whole world, managing to have branches in Australia, Singapore and many more.
Well here in the Philippines, it is located at one of the freshest and newest food hub in the city, The Blue Bay Walk in Macapagal Ave. Pasay City, just a notch away from the famous Mall of Asia, Complex. But the store need not fuss for as far as I know this is a first in the Philippines. So it can brag all it wants.
The menu is basically and as expected consists of fried items, the famous jaw-breaking fried chicken of course, then the equally gigantic fish fillet and then it also serves chicken skin and wings. Also, they have sandwiches for those who still consider their diet while dining at this place.
The Menu
For the price, I think it's still very reasonable for the amount and the size of the slab you're gonna get. I'm telling you it's gonna test every bit of manhood in your veins to devour everything and finish it. That's why you can order it with rice or just the chicken itself which you'd eat in their take out paper bag. And there's unli gravy too! ( a plus).
If you're gonna ask me what's the best thing to order I'd say go for the
BBQ style fried chicken cause it's probably the one that has the most taste in them. Frankly speaking, their chicken tastes good, but not really out of the ordinary just really, really large. I guess that's the catch. But all in all it's good and worth every bucks.
11 Songs that will make you reminisce, think and
eventually cry.
Sometimes all you need is that one friend and good music
to get you through the day.
So here’s to us going all through this hell and sh*t.
1. Amos
Lee – Colors
“..Now I'm down,
I'm just hanging on
the corner I can't help but reminisce…”
Well this is one afternoon song you have to hear when you
just got dumped, or you just got into a heavy fight with her. This will jerk
your tears faster than your mom’s mouth. This song will make you think, make you
reminisce and make you realize his or her real worth. This might also make you
realize how dull the world is when you’re alone.
2. Turn your love – Jack Johnson
“..I don't want you to know Let's not go to sleep tonight It's not that it goes too fast It's just that it goes at all..”
When we talk about Jack Johnson, it always
screams feel –good
chill out songs. And feel good doesn’t always mean feel right after hearing it,
mind. This one is a simple yet deep kind of a gloomy song, the type that the
people in their late 20’s or early 30’s can surely relate. But hey everybody
still can it just depends where you’re coming from. This song talks about two old lovers parting,
they don’t want to but they have to, and they have accepted that. And they’re
just trying to make the most of the time remaining in their relationship.
Ironic as it may seems, that always happen in real life.
3. A Beautiful Mess- Jason Mraz
“…And through timeless
words and priceless pictures We’ll fly like birds not of this earth And tides they turn and hearts disfigure But that's no concern when we're wounded
together..”
Well to be different, this one isn’t a break up
or hate song. This one is just a sad love song. The lyrics are right but the
tune, it just makes you feel beautifully sad. This one is for the lost souls
who eventually found themselves again. And for the finders who truly appreciate
the treasure they’ve found amidst all the damaged pieces of broken heart and
dreams.
4.Don’t say goodbye, say goodnight- Binocular
“..And now I've tried
to see the truth But I close my eyes And you were there for me And I was there for you..”
This one’s a classic. If you’re a 90’s kid then
you’ve probably grown up to this kind of alternative music. The title speaks
for itself. It’s one sad break up song. This song relives a hundred of memories
in my mind, and the happiest are surely the hardest to think about. This one is
perfect for the final moments of your relationship. The time when you finally
decided that it’s time to go. Listening to this kind of hurts pretty badly when
you really get into the zone and the lyrics are just too right.
5.Better that we break- Maroon 5
“..Now waking up is
hard to do Sleeping's impossible too And every thing's reminding me of you..”
Well this is a post break up song. Maybe days, months or even
years after the break up, and you found yourself still in love with that girl
or guy but you realize it’s for the best to stay that way, this one’s perfect.
This one will hit you hard after realizing that you still haven’t moved on, but
you’d rather stay away because it’s your fault why all these happened. So
you’ll just continue living sulking at the thought of it all, and wait till it
all the emotions finally wither or pass by hopefully.
6. Vienna- the Fray
“..Maybe in five or
ten yours and mine will meet again Straighten this whole thing out Maybe then honesty need not be feared as a
friend or an enemy..”
Again, a break up song for all of you guys. But this is like
one of Jack Johnson’s, the deep and haunting type of music they always seem to
have behind the beauty of their tunes.
This
is for the one’s leaving town, going
away for good, the ones leaving it all behind and letting fate decide for the
relationship. The ones determined to
forget, this one is for you.
7.Come around- Rhett Miller
“..No one else can fix
me Although sometimes my heart tricks me Into thinkin' someone else will do..”
Well this one’s another classic 90’s song. It’s been used in thesoundtrackof
the American comedy series Scrubs. It’s
another post break up song, but with simple yet clear and bold lyrics everyone
can surely relate to. Months and a few
failed relationships after the break up, you hear this song. And bam, you
suddenly realized who really mattered from the start and how your life sucks
now that the time and chance has gone.
8. Breathe in, breathe out – Mat Kearney
“..Hold on, hold tight Make it through another night And everyday, there comes a song with the dawn..”
This
one belongs to the soundtrack of Grey’s Anatomy Volume 3, this isn’t a break up
song. But this is for the struggling relationships. The one’s holding on a thin
line, and for the ones fighting to hold on. This one’s good. The song’s not
actually sad in fact it speaks about real love, but what makes it heart
wrenching is the memories that go along with the tune as you play it. It will
surely come crashing down.
9. Not over you- Gavin Degraw
“..Dreams That’s where I have to go To see your beautiful Face anymore ..”
Well this one’s a good
upbeat yet still very miserable song.
For the hopeless and the hopefuls, this is just right. For the ones left
behind, the ones who haven’t a single bit moved on, for the ones hoping to get
back and give it another shot and lastly for the in denials. Sometimes it’s
easy making yourself believe that you’re already fine, but one good song is all
you need to wake up to the sheer reality that you’ve been trying to avoid all
this time.
10. Stay High- Tove Lo ft. Hippie Sabotage
“..Staying in my play
pretend Where the fun ain't got no end Can't go home alone again Need someone to numb the pain..”
This is a new song actually. And it will hit you
harder than your mom’s hands once you feel where the song is coming from. This
is for the ones who find it real damn hard to accept the truth that it’s over.
The ones who want to escape reality. The poor people who try to live life in
the shimmer of clubs, drugs and alcohol just to get away from it all, this is
the song for you. This one is really sad, especially when this happens to
explain your life right now.
Everybody Knows- John Legend
“…I'm calling your name and no one's there...”
Who doesn’t love John Legend? Amidst all of his famed love songs I
found this good break up tune. For the ones who’ve been cheated on or been left
behind, for the ones regretting what could have been, and for the hopefuls
wishing there could have been a second chance to make things right. This one
might help you take a step inch closer to acceptance and moving on. But still I
won’t guarantee that it wouldn’t fill up your eyes.
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MOVING ON AND
GETTING USED TO IT.
Do you really believe in moving on? Maybe or maybe not and there’s no wrong
answer. But for me, I think getting used to- is more like it. Or maybe moving
on comes right after you get used to all the haze. You can put it anyway you want but the one
thing’s for sure, there’s no paved road for this. It’s going to be rough.
There’s
a difference between saying goodbye and letting go. You can basically say
goodbye and not feel a pang of pain simply because a single word doesn’t
guarantee a definite closure. You don’t close yourself to the certainty of not
meeting again. You’re just parting ways for some time and you can always stay
in touch because you’ll allow yourself to. But letting go, it’s a different
world we’re talking about. Letting go is something definite, something firm and
painful. It is a decision not made overnight, sometimes it takes days, weeks,
months or for some unfortunately, years. It’s laying down the line, finally
closing the door, and deciding to walk away, for good.
These
two words kind of get mixed up sometimes though. You can say goodbye and think
of it as letting go but that doesn’t always work, you may wake up one night
when the pain finally and suddenly comes crashing down out of nowhere from the
distant past. That’s why saying goodbye isn’t easy, unless you really mean it.
If the night before the moment of truth comes and you’re still having second
thoughts, then DON’T do it. I repeat. DON’T DO IT. This could be the worst decision of your
life. This could be the biggest regret you’ll ever have. Because once you said it, it’s like a
continuous spell that will magically affect all your days ahead. Are you really
prepared for it? Or is it just your pride getting in the way? Once you lay down
the line, it will automatically affect your significant other. They will get
hurt of course, and getting hurt doesn’t always guarantee an open heart for
second chances. What if all this was just a spill of the moment anger and you
DON’T really mean it, can you take all the words back? Yes you can apologize
but it won’t be the same, a shattered glass will never be the same even if you glue it back a hundred times.
Once
this happens and the two of you resulted to splitting up, you force yourself to
move on the fastest way possible. You jump into all the diversions available;
Drinking, smoking, sex and drugs, whatever you fancy. You get to the next train
and move out quicker than the sunset that afternoon. It will all be a haze at first, and yes I
won’t contradict that this helps, BUT only for awhile. You can move out or drink all you want, get
high as the Everest, and turn down like your neighborhood whore but still, you
can’t escape. You just can’t. He or she
will be practically everywhere, like a ghost haunting you even in your dreams.
So
that’s why it’s very important to be sure about your decision. Then if you
really want to end things, then you have to deal with it afterwards, not run
away from it. You can cry, nobody said you can’t. You have to go through the
stages. You have to face it the right way, come home to your family or call
your closest friend and whine your heart out. Cry until you actually fall to
sleep, until you have tears to spare. Empty your body fluids if that’s the way
to go. Because eventually you will get tired, the tears will dry up, and
finally, you will get USED to it. And
once you get used to it, I think that’s the only time the words moved
on are appropriate.
A few weeks ago, I wrote about the problem of “drift” – the decision you make by not deciding, or by making a decision that unleashes consequences for which you don’t take responsibility. The responses I got – comments on my blog, in my email, and on the Facebook Page– showed me that a lot of people have also suffered from drift. One of the problems of drift is that we try to deny we’re drifting. Take this quiz: how many of these statements apply to you, in your current situation? The more checks you make, the greater your risk for being adrift.
__ I often have the peculiar feeling that I’m living someone else’s life. __ I often think, “This situation can’t go on,” but then it does go on. __ I spend a lot of time daydreaming about a completely different life as an escape from what I’m doing now. __ I find myself getting very angry if someone challenges the values that I think I’m working toward. (E.g., working like crazy as a fifth-year associate at a law firm, and furious if someone argues that money and security aren’t important.) __ I complain about my situation, but I don’t spend much time trying to figure out ways to make it better. In fact… __ I fantasize that some catastrophe or upheaval will blow up my situation. I’ll break my leg or get transferred to another city. __ I find myself having disproportionate reactions. (For example, I have a friend who wasn't admitting to herself that she wanted to be an actor, and she decided to give it a shot after she started crying when someone started talking about acting.) __ I feel like other people or processes are moving events forward, and I’m just passively carried along. __ I find myself doing or getting something because the people around me are doing it or want it. __ There is something in my life about which I used to be passionate, but now I never allow myself to indulge in it. In fact, it makes me uncomfortable even thinking about it. __ I’ve justified certain actions on my part by assuring myself, “I might as well,” “It can’t hurt,” “This might be useful,” “This will keep my options open,” “I can always decide later,” “I can always change my mind,” “Nothing is forever,” “How bad can it be?”
According to the First Splendid Truth, to be happier, you need to think about feeling good, feeling bad, feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth. Of these four elements, “feeling right” is the hardest to explain. “Feeling right” is feeling like you’re leading the life you’re meant to live; that you’re living up to your expectations for yourself; that you feel comfortable with the life you’ve chosen. Feeling right might mean being in the right career. One reason I left law was that I was haunted by the feeling that I was…on a tangent, off-center. I can’t describe it any other way. There I was, clerking for Justice O’Connor, and I was haunted by a feeling that it was all a digression. From what, to what? That’s what I had to figure out. Some people don’t “feel right” because they don’t have the family situation they want, or the financial situation they expected. Or they’re not spending their time on something that’s important to them. My Manhattan-raised college roommate didn’t “feel right” about living in the Midwest; she tried and tried, but her life there just didn’t feel right.
I think “feeling right” is especially susceptible to outside pressures. We drift into certain decisions because other people approve of them. Your sense of what is right for you becomes clouded by what other people think is right. You drift into medical school because your parents will be pleased. You drift into marriage because all your friends are getting married. You drift into a job because someone offers you that job. You want the respect of the people around you, or you want to avoid a fight or a bout of insecurity, so you take the path of least resistance. That’s drift.
The word "drift" has overtones of laziness or ease. Not true! Drift is often disguised by a huge amount of effort and perseverance. Just because you're working hard is no guarantee that you're not drifting. For me, law school was drift, and it was hard every step of the way, from the LSAT to the New York Bar exam. In the end, I'm happy I did go to law school -- and that's another tricky thing about drift. Sometimes drift does make you happy. But don't count on it.
One of my drift-related Secrets of Adulthood is "You can choose what you do, but you can't choose what you like to do." And here's a new one: "Approval from the people we admire is sweet, but it’s not enough to be the foundation of a happy life." It comes back, as always, to a fundamental truth about happiness, and my First Commandment: Be Gretchen. (Feel free to substitute your own name.) In order to be happy, I have to know myself and build my life around my own nature.
Have you found yourself drifting? How did you start, how did you end it -- or not?
Pauwi ka nanaman galing inom. Saya ng buhay di ba? Para kang maskarang naglalakad sa kalsada. Lakad lang ng lakad, wala namang pupuntahan. Lahat ng madaanan napapatawa pero sarileng anino hindi masaya. Ano ba talaga ang kaligayahan? Malalaman mo ba kung ano ito hangga't hindi pa lumilipas sayo? Malalaman mo ba halaga nito hanggat hindi pa nawawala sa mga palad mo? Nakakatawa kase hindi patas ang buhay at kahit pilitin mong kontrolin ang puso't damdamin mo wala kang magagawa pag tadhana ang naglaro sayo.
Magigising ka nalang isang araw na wala na lahat. Iba na ang kulay ng langit, Iba na ang simoy ng hangin. Pero ikaw nandyan parin. Nakakainis kasi baket hindi ka ren nagbago, baket ikaw andon paren kahit lahat nag iba na. Masakit sa mata, sa tenga, sa puso at sa kaluluwa. Hindi mo alam kung panaginip lang pero ng me pamilyar na amoy na dumapo sa ilong mo, agad kang sinuntok ng riyalidad na lahat ng ito'y totoo.
Huli na ang lahat ng magising ka, wala ka ng matatawag na pangalan para sagipin ka. Lahat sila'y umusad na. Nalinlang ka nanaman, akala mo dati ikaw ang nauna, akala mo lahat ng hakbang mo tama. Yun pala nakatalikod ka, takbo ka ng takbo, maling direksyon naman tintatakbo mo. Lahat sila nauna na habang ikaw bumabalik sa umpisa. Ano na gagawin mo ngayon, pano ka ulet magsisimula? Sino na kasabay mo tumakbo, sana ngayon matuto ka ng matuto.
The last thing I knew was I was about to finish my internship and have a great life ahead. Which now was just one fcked up cliche.
Yeahh sad as it is, but it does happen folks. Expectations. That's the key factor in this problem. People always expect color infused rainbows in every storms' ending. But in real talk, not all are blessed to see a rainbow in their life, some just a glimpse, and some of us, unfortunately are just given only grey clouds.
Rainbow after the rain? Not always.
Past forward 8 months, I'm sitting here writing this blog, which to me seems like a lonely desperate move. Well I have a very decent and great boyfriend, a good set of friends, a supportive family, beers and all the cigarettes I can smoke to match. The only catch is, I still don't have a job. STILL. At first it's fine, I don't mind it at all, I'm actually enjoying it to be honest. No painfully irritating morning alarms, no traffic, no rush hour, no meetings, no deadlines, no psychopathic boss. In short, life was a pure sugar- coated piece of heaven.
But as time went on, my self - esteem is knocking at the door. People around me are all moving on and I find myself stuck in a place where I wanted to be at the first place. My friends are slowly disappearing in sight. Work became a popular word. And life for me was slowly beginning to become uncomfortably quiet. I was trying and still trying now with all my guts spilling in every single job interview I have ever had. I know myself and I know that I'm not messing up, but there's still one question that's still hanging in my mind up to now, why the f*ck am I still lonely and unemployed like this?
Maybe there's something wrong withme. Or with the world I'm living in. Maybe there's nothing wrong. Maybe it's just that life is too unfair for some. Maybe she likes to play. Maybe she plays hard. That maybe, is something that I will have to figure out for myself. Ciao.
