WEEKENDS AT 30

        It's been a rough week, right? Now we're all looking forward to the sunny (rowdy?) weekend ahead. Some of us are only living for that, sadly. At 30s, you think you have it all figured out, but only one call from  a friend asking to meet up for drinks is all it takes to become a complete clueless mess.

 Back on our roaring twenties, this is a no brainer. Friday through Saturday nights are the best days of our lives, and sometimes even Sunday afternoons. We'll only slow down on Sunday evenings, when the grim realization that Monday is inevitable has already started creeping up. 

But now at your calmer 30s, what do people your age usually do during weekends? After a lot of observation and painful personal experience, here's what I've got:

1.) They prefer to stay at home. No shit Sherlock. People in their 30s are always tired or sick. So staying at home never sounded any better.

2.) When they go out, it's usually just at some friend's house. They prefer to hang out inside the house still, just not their own house. Well on the brighter side, some of their friends are already moving to new houses, so it's always nice to pay a visit now and then.

3.) When they go out, they prefer open spaces like rooftop bars or open air bars. It's nice to actually be able to have a conversation while gettin' fucked up. Indoor clubs can't provide you any of that.

4.) When they go clubbing, it's usually out of town like music festivals, annual holiday raves, etc. If you're already married, clubbing in the metro is no more fun. It's nice to really dance and get messed up on a nice beach somewhere with your long-time friends, compared to throwing up on a puke/piss-filled toilet on your local pub.

5.) Travel has become therapy and a luxury. Whether it's a financial or an existential crisis, most of them crave to get away every time bad luck comes knocking. But oftentimes, they can't just go. Work, family, kids and other adult commitments makes it almost impossible to be away even for a day. Planning usually takes months only to end up not going. 

6.) Coffee. Coffee. Coffee. Those non-alcoholic friends of mine look forward to trying all the new cafés weekly. It has become their salvation.

7.) Groceries. What's more therapeutic than having to walk on different aisles of soaps and detergents on a rainy weekend?

8.) Laundry and cleaning day. Don't be surprised to see a lot of us hanging out at the laundry shop with our phones or even laptop all day. This is the only time we have actual time and will to do these things.

9.) Sleeping in. They are just too tired of their lives and angry at the world that sleep outshines everything else.

10.) Nothing. Sometimes they want to do this and do that. But there's no one available, or they're broke. Or they simply don't know what they want, and that's okay. We're just big clueless kids who have jobs to pay bills after all. 

 

Can you relate?

Why We Keep on Getting Hurt

There are no perfect list or reasons to justify why we always end up hurting ourselves. We can't always blame other people for our misery, sometimes the problem is innate. Here are three basic reasons why we do what we do:

1.) We expect. 

Expectation is the number one killer of dreams and aspirations, it messes up with our view of our own reality. We expect things to go this way, or to be that way. That when we end up getting a far cry from what we painted it to be, we get frustrated and hurt. Sometimes this is an unconscious act, when things are going smooth and fine, we automatically expect it to become better and better. But this is no fairy tale honey, it isn't rainbows and butterflies all year round.  It's okay to expect, just don't forget what the world really is like.

2.) We care. Too Much.

When we become attached to someone, be it a friend or a loved one. Our natural instinct is to care and protect them, sometimes too much that we usually end up overlooking ourselves. Sometimes we care too much because we think that they would care as much for our well-being too. But sometimes, it's just a one-sided love affair. And when this becomes a habit, they become a parasite and you will be the source. You give away all your love and time for these people who are so at ease and convinced that you'll always be there whatever happens, that they don't feel the need to reciprocate anything. That sucks right. Might as well practice the IDGAF mindset sometimes.

3.) We always forget one of the golden rules: The only constant thing is change.

Contrary to the belief that time hardens everything., it actually changes everything.  Even years of friendship changes gradually, it's just up to us to direct where and how it's gonna go. We don't really notice, but when we become comfortable with the people around us, we assume that nothing's gonna change, and when it does, we drastically fight it. We struggle to hold on to something that's inevitable in the first place.  We always forget that change is imminent and there's nothing we can do, not even our tears and long speeches, to stop it. We just have to accept it and move on. As what they always say, what goes around comes around.

15 URI NG KAIBIGAN NA MAKIKILALA MO SA INUMAN

15 URI NG KAIBIGAN NA MAKIKILALA MO SA INUMAN

By: Antonette Sarte

Based on extensive years ng pag iinom, eto ang mga pinaka common na tao makakasalamuha niyo sa inuman niyo halos gabi gabe. Sana ma-enjoy niyo. :D

1. The Silencer

Eto ung tropa mong tahimik lage sa inuman o lakad,  nkayuko nagtetext, nanunuod ng youtube o naglalaro ng COC. Magsasalita pag kinausap, tatawa pag may nakkatawa, tatagay pag sa kanya na, pero yuyuko na ulet pagtapos ng lahat ng ito. Hindi man sya pala salita, pero pag nagsimula na kayo mag usap, at “in the zone” na ang lolo mo, dire diretso na gagalaw ang bibig nya at dun mo marerealize na ang kailangan nya lang pala ay isang kaibigan.

     2. The Sleepy Hollow

Eto ung laging late naupo sa pwesto dahil kagigising lang, at pag upo nya e inaantok nanaman. Anak ng. Hindi sya gaano nakikiride sa mga trip nyo, dahil masaya na syang makinig at makitawa sa isang sulok hanggang sa dahan dahan na syang maglakbay sa panaginip niya.

     3. The VIPs

Eto ung mga nuknukan ng arte kung yayain, ang daming requirements. Ang daming dokumentong hinihinge, “Sino sinong pupunta”, “Hanggang anong oras”, “Kelangan sa malapit lang”. At kung ma- meet mo man lahat ng hinihingi neto, ay tyak late parin siya darating, dahil sisiguraduhin nyang nkalatag na lahat, nkapuwesto na lahat ng wala na siyang dapat asikasuhin, at kung nagdatingan na ang mga kapwa niya VIP, dahil boring nga naman makipag inuman sa mga butaw.

     4. The Chosen One.

Eto ung mga taong nakakangaga ng buong puso nung mag sabog ang Diyos ng kasipagan. Sila kadalasan ay nabibilang sa mga unang nadating para magluto ng pulutan, bumile sa tindahan, at mag timpla ng alak. Sila rin kadalasan yung mga huling nauwi, para magligpit at maglinis ng ininuman. Bihira ang mga ganito, at pag nakahanap ka ng mga katulad nila e tropahin mo na for life.

    5. The Agogo Dancer

Eto ung nasa gate palang e naghuhubad na ng t-shirt habang nasayaw Kolboy Style. Kadalasan, galing na siya sa iba pang inuman, at dahil kayo ang mga bespren niya, kayo dapat ang makasaksi ng tunay niyang kulay at kayo dapat ang mag hatid sa kanya sa huling hantungan (banyo, sofa, sala, sahig). Masaya kasama ang mga taong ito, dahil game na game sila. Kadalasan ay uunang namamatay sa inuman kakasayaw.

   6. The Hadhad

Eto ung mga tropa mong pag nalalasing e nangangati ang buong katawan, at nakakalimutan ang buong pagkatao niya. Nakakalimutan niya kung sino ang mga katabi niya at kung sino ang mga kasama niya basta pag nangati, e tyak siguradong magpapakamot. Kadalasan kilala na naten sila, pero may mga pagkakataon na biglang umuusbong ang hadhad skills ng isa mong kaibigan, pag nasobrahan sa alak.

  7. The Dramarama sa Hapon

Eto ung kadalasan nagyaya ng inom dahil may problema, pag upo sa lamesa ay nakatulala o may ka heart to heart na isang tropa ng ilang oras, pagkatapos ay biglang iiyak at makukuha na ang atensyon ng lahat ng nag iinom, at ang problema niya na ang magiging topic para sa buong gabing iyon. Kadalasan, nauuna malasing ang mga ito dahil sa pagpipilit lunuken ang buong bote ng Empi o sa pag angkin sa shot ng iba. Kadalasan nabagal ang ikot ng alak dahil hindi na naalis sa kanyan ang shotglass.

8. The Angry Bird

Eto ung tumataas ang presyon pag nakakainom ng alak, nagdidilim ang kanyang paningin at nagpapantig ang kanyang tenga. Aktibo ito sa mga diskusyon at pag siya ay natatalo na ay maghahamon, sisigaw o mag wo-walk out. Kadalasan nabalik din sila pag humupa na ang moment at mag so-sorry, with matching iyak pa. Masaya sila panuorin at kadalasan ay hindi na pinapatulan pag nasanay na.

9. The Sponsorship

Eto ung mga taong nanganganak ng pera. Kadalasan ay niyayaya siya sa inom dahil galante at di mahirap singilin, pag natyempuhan mo pang good vibes, e tyak makakatikim ka ng libreng alak at chichirya sa gabing iyon. Maraming tropa ang mga ito pero bilang lang ang totoo, alam na e.  

10. The MMK life story

Eto ung mga taong medyo gipit sa buhay, at hindi pinagpala ng pang ambag sa inuman pero kadalasan ay sinasama dahil pag tropa tropa. Madalas ay nililibre ito ng “SPONSOR” (read no. 9) pero minsan ay namimihasa ang mga MMK, dahil kahit meron na silang pera ay papanindigan pa rin nila ang saklap ng buhay at ipaglalaban ang 20PHP na ambag na “ipapamasahe” pa daw nila pauwe.

11. The Buffet 101

Eto ung mga laging kapos sa kanin mong tropa, na pag dating palang sa inuman e nakatitig agad sa lamesa. Minsan si CR daw sila muna, pero ang diretso pala ay sa kusina o rep para silipin kung ano mang pulutan ang meron para sa gabing iyon. Mahirap maglapag ng pagkain sa lamesa dahil nag sisilbing “War Zone”  ito pagkalapag na pagkalapag mo ng plato. Kadalasan ay madaldal ang mga ito dahil paraan nila yan para ma-divert ang antensyon mo sa pulutan, madalas ay hawak nila ang tinidor habang nagsasalita.

12. The Others

Eto ung mga tropa mong may sariling tropa pag nasa inuman. Sila lang kinakausap niya buong gabi at sila lang pinapansin niya. Kadalasan ay maasar ka sa kanila, pero kadalasan ay may topak lang sila. Hindi naman sila laging ganito, pero pag sinumpong ay talagang nakakairita, kadalasan nauuwi sa diskusyon ang inom kapag may mga “Others”.

13. The Balikbayan

Eto ung mga minsan lang magpunta, minsan lang sumulpot kahit nasa kabilang kanto lang ang bahay niya. “School”, “busy”, “trabaho”, “Lovelife” kadalasan ang maririnig mo sa kanya pag inaya. Madalas mo lang sila makikita kapag may bday, kasal, binyag, graduation tulad ng iba mong kamag anak na asa ibang bansa. Pero pag simpleng salu-salo at inuman lamang ay malabo mong masinagan ang anino nila.

14. The Ninja Turtle

Eto ung mga ci-CR lang daw, may kukunen sa kotse, mag wa-wifi lang, o bibili ng yosi. Yun pala umuwi na. Madalas to pag patapos na ang inuman, hindi mo sila maasahang magligpit o magwalis manlang dahil asa kanto na pala nag aabang ng tricycle. Kadalasan magtetext ito kinabukasan at hihingi ng pasensya sa bigla niyang pagkawala, kesyo tinawagan ni misis o sinigawan ng nanay kaya DAW umuwi.

15. The Perfect Attendance

Eto ung mga, ubod ng dali yayain, hindi mahirap kausap at kadalasan wala ng tanong tanong pupunta nalang. Tumutulong sila mag ayos at maglinis at nag aambag ng tama. Aktibo sila sa grupo at halos walang nami-miss na lakad. Endangered species na ang mga ito kaya tulad ng mga “Chosen Ones”, e sila ay ating alagaan at paramihin pa.